A: I'll be the first to admit the difficulty in staying joyful in the face of difficult life situations. The feelings of despair are only exacerbated when a loved one is involved. As truth students we often put undue pressure on ourselves to feel only positive feelings. This makes matters worse because then we feel bad for feeling bad. We also don't like to feel negative emotions. Sometimes the only way out is through. By embracing our feelings, we give ourselves the gift of being fully present to the situation and to others. By truly feeling our feelings we can be authentic and show empathy to others.
Another important, but not easy, aspect of our life journey is being at peace with what is. We can make steps towards that by accepting things with as few judgments and attachments as possible. Again, this is easier said than done. However, when we realize that both triumph and tragedy, gladness and grief, delight and despondency are going to come our way, our outlook might be one of, "This is simply life unfolding." When we label things as "good" or "bad" we set ourselves up for disappointment.
And let us not underestimate the power of Gratitude. Even in the face of hardship, taking time to give thanks for past joys can elevate one's spirit. But also be in gratitude for the current situation. Every moment you share with your husband is precious and irreplaceable, regardless of how it looks.
Finally, let's also remember that All Care Begins With Self-Care. Another easier-said-than-done missive. When we take care of our own needs (physical, emotional, spiritual, mental) we are better equipped to be with others. It might seem that there is't enough time to do it, but it's the key.